A current trend in parent-shaming is demeaning parents who are on their smartphones while out with their children. At the park, at a restaurant, at the library... the list goes on. There are blog posts, Facebook posts and more where people decry society today and our dependence on electronics, which keeps us from interacting with our kids. But like anything, there is more than one side to the story, and that's what makes this blog post so refreshing!
As an iPhone user, I do have my iPhone out in public often (always?) and I also have my kids out with me in public often. Yet I am a mom connected to my kids, involved in their lives and education. So I know there are always two sides to every story. When you saw my family at the outdoor jazz concert the other day, did you bemoan the fact we were all sitting and reading books while listening, and not talking to each other? (*Not pictured: my husband and I, both reading our own books on electronic devices.)
The mom behind the blog Real Life Parenting sums it up perfectly in her post from May, which has made a recent resurgence thanks to coverage on Huffington Post. It's a great message: remember that what we see someone doing in public is only a small window of the whole story.
From the post:
Dear Mom on the iPhone,
I see you at the park with your kids, phone in hand. Your cherubs are running around playing and calling out “Mommy, watch me!” They go down the slide squealing in delight yelling “Mommy, watch this!” As they climb the ladder to go again, they shout “Mommy, I want you to watch me!! Mommy, watch! Mommy! Mommy!! MOMMY!!!!”
But you’re not watching … because you’re on your phone–checking Facebook, email, or Pinterest.
You’re not watching … because you just spent every waking hour before arriving at the park watching everything your child did. Every. Little. Thing.
You watched as he ate his breakfast and “drove” his waffles around his plate. You watched as he held the fork upside down and stabbed at bites with the handle and said “Mommy, now watch me do this!” And then he picked up his napkin and put it on his head. And you were watching.
Read the whole post on Real Life Parenting: